Welcome to the online home of me, some guy given the name John Cleveland Payne. In the grand scheme of life, I am just another guy with another blog. But to myself, and hopefully to all of you who actually read this, I am something a little more special. From a young age, I fell in love of the idea of ‘the message’ and medium in which you try to transmit.
Basically, everyone has a message to give to the world. Some are basic, some complex, some have the power to up lift and some are just out there to bring as many people down as possible. But everyone has a message, and most people have problems identifying their message. And the ones who get that far can seem to figure out how to get the world to listen.
Well, I have a message, and this is where I will get a chance to share it. Hopefully, you’ll get plenty of things to keep you motivated or inspired, provide knowledge and comfort, and just have a little fun. Apologies for the state of flux and state of seemingly confusing messages that you’ll get here for a while, as I am doing a lot of personal soul searching, and scrubbing of old ideas to take the best of the past to build a new beginning.
In 2007, I changed the name of blog from “The Mis-Adventures Of The Jazzy Cool One” to “Life In Fast Forward.” I began to tear down old blogs and newsletters and try to find places for them here. My goal is to take the focus off of me the person, and show the world the life I live and share with every human on the planet. I aspire to life at a very high standard, and instead of dealing with people who rather slow us down, I want to find ways to help people pick up there own pace. As you get to see an insight to the further adventures I hope to lead, hopefully you’ll enjoy the ride, and want to come along.
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Going For A Win After Giving Up Win-Win
Sunday, January 27, 2008
For those who can’t get through the all of the tenets of game theory, the basic breakdown has a win-win strategy as the desired outcome for conflict resolution that aims to accommodate all disputants. Essentially, a win-win outcome means each side of a dispute feels they have won. Whatever accommodations that have been made provide more pluses to their side than minuses. The alternatives are win-lose, when only one side perceives the outcome as positive, and lose-lose, where all parties end up being worse off in the end.
Obviously, a lose-lose is the worst possibly outcome available. But what about win-lose? Assuming you are on the win side of the decision, and there is no way to come to accommodations where both sides can prosper, can you actually live with a decision where you know you’re screwing over your opposition?
it depends. Ifs its pick up basketball with a bunch of guys you’re likely not to see again, why should you care if you win big? If you’re a military general, it might be the only strategy available against an opposing force that refuses to negotiate or surrender.
If your business is being threatened by a viscous or even unfair attack, and your reputation and likelihood are on the line, you better be prepared to go all or nothing.
One interesting point in the whole gambit of working for a win-win outcome , as per Stephen Covey’s 4th Habit (Think Win/Win), is that Covey presents this as six paradigms of human interaction, and once you get past win-lose and lose-win seem like the same thing, and win at all cost, you have the option of just walking away and saying ‘no deal.’ Its almost as good as a mutual win for both sides, even if no side comes away with anything. Only you will be able to know if you can live with the outcome, but a win-win isn’t always possible, and a no deal may not be an option. While you may not want to do harm or play foul against your opponent, you are facing off against an opponent. Do not underestimate you ability to pull a ‘win’.
